Category: Relationships


12 Steps to Great Relationships: Step 8: The Second Encounter

Posted on 21st February, by Brent in Blog, Relationships. No Comments

For details on all of the previous steps, look at previous blogs. Step 1: Know yourself. Step 2: Develop a genuine love or acceptance of yourself. Step 3: Expand your knowledge. Step 4: Appreciate the differences. Get perspectives on different values and cultures. Step 5 is to be open, genuine, and positive. Step 6 is to develop a genuine love or at least acceptance of other people. Step 7 is to pay attention to the first five seconds.

Step 8 is to pay attention to the second encounter.

First of all, you are going to remember their name. They will likely not remember yours, so that gives you an advantage. Introduce yourself so they won’t be embarrassed about not remembering your name. Then, talk about them. Let them know that you remember them and those … Read More »



12 Steps to Great Relationships: Step 7: The First Five Seconds

Posted on 7th February, by Brent in Blog, Relationships. No Comments

For details on all of the previous steps, look at previous blogs. Step 1: Know yourself. Step 2: Develop a genuine love or acceptance of yourself. Step 3: Expand your knowledge. Step 4: Appreciate the differences. Get perspectives on different values and cultures. Step 5 is to be open, genuine, and positive. Step 6 is to develop a genuine love or at least acceptance of other people.

Step 7 is to pay attention to the first five seconds. What are you supposed to do during the introduction? How should you act? Is it really that important? According to numerous studies, that first impression is vital. In the first few seconds, people will judge your intelligence, your socio-economic status, if you are a good person or not, whether or not they like you, and if … Read More »



12 Steps to Great Relationships: Step 6: Develop a genuine love or at least acceptance of other people

Posted on 30th January, by Brent in Blog, Relationships. No Comments

For details on all of the previous steps, look at previous blogs. Step 1: Know yourself. Step 2: Develop a genuine love or acceptance of yourself. Step 3: Expand your knowledge. Step 4: Appreciate the differences. Get perspectives on different values and cultures. Step 5 is to be open, genuine, and positive.

Accept others with all of their limitations. This can be difficult. But once you accept yourself, it’s much easier. I know there are a lot of difficult people out there. There are people you probably consider to be stupid, arrogant, contrary, negative, or full of angst. It’s those people who need acceptance the most. Give them that grace. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Expect the best from them. You will be greatly amazed at how your attitude will affect theirs. When … Read More »



12 Steps to Great Relationships: Step 5, Be Open, Genuine, and Positive

Posted on 28th January, by Brent in Blog, Relationships. No Comments

For details on all of the previous steps, look at previous blogs. Step 1: Know yourself. Step 2: Develop a genuine love or acceptance of yourself. Step 3: Expand your knowledge. Step 4: Appreciate the differences. Get perspectives on different values and cultures. This goes for gender differences as well.

Step 5 is to be open, genuine, and positive. And make no mistake. It is a choice.

Take a look at the two photos above. The one on the top is a facial expression that I see often. I work with technical folks and most of them have a neutral face at best, and some have faces that are downright angry looking. If you have a face like the one on the left, the person you meet will fill in the blanks. … Read More »



12 Steps to Great Relationships: Step Four, Appreciate the Differences

Posted on 19th January, by Brent in Blog, Relationships. No Comments

For details on all of the previous steps, look at previous blogs.

Step 1: Know yourself.

Step 2: Develop a genuine love or acceptance of yourself.

Step 3: Expand your knowledge.

Step 4: Appreciate the differences. Get perspectives on different values and cultures. This goes for gender differences as well.

Learn about and appreciate the differences while emphasizing the similarities. When it comes down to it, we are all human beings who have a need to love and be loved. Find that common connection. For some difficult people your only connection may be that you are both carbon-based life forms. If you can travel more, this is like getting a PhD in relationships. Find out about different cultures, food, art, music, dance, and language. Learn a language if you can. Learn about cultural differences with greetings, meetings, social situations, … Read More »